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Couples Therapy · Ferndale, MI & Virtual

Premarital & Pre-Commitment Counseling

Invest in your future together.

Build a resilient, joyful, and lasting partnership before life gets complicated. Evidence-based, inclusive, and tailored to modern couples.

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What You'll Walk Away With

More than just better communication

Our program gives you concrete tools and a deeper understanding of each other that you will carry into every season of your relationship.

A Shared Conflict Map

Understand the real dynamic underneath your disagreements: what you are each needing, fearing, and reaching for, so conflict becomes a doorway rather than a wall.

Clarity on What Matters

Align on values, life vision, and expectations before they become sources of friction, from finances and family to intimacy and how you spend your time.

A Deeper Understanding of Each Other

Explore your attachment styles and how your individual histories shape how you love and seek to be loved, creating space for more empathy and less reactivity.

Rituals of Connection

Build intentional habits including daily check-ins, repair phrases, and ways of coming back to each other that keep you close through busy, stressful, and uncertain seasons.

Tools to Repair Quickly

Every couple has ruptures. What separates thriving couples from struggling ones is not the absence of conflict but the ability to repair. You will leave with a shared language for doing exactly that.

A Therapist in Your Corner

After your program ends, you will have an ongoing relationship with a therapist who knows your story, available for check-ins, life transitions, and whenever you want support.
Why Premarital Counseling

The research is clear: preparation matters

Most couples wait too long to ask for help.

Relationship researchers have found that couples often struggle for years before seeking professional support. By then, negative patterns including resentment, contempt, and emotional withdrawal are often deeply entrenched and much harder to shift.

Premarital and pre-commitment counseling flips that script. Instead of addressing damage after it is done, you come in with momentum and goodwill on your side. You learn the skills before you need them under pressure.

A strong start does not mean an easy one.

Even happy, deeply compatible couples bring different attachment histories, communication defaults, and unspoken assumptions into their partnership. These are not flaws; they are human. But without a shared framework for navigating them, they can slowly erode even the strongest foundation.

Premarital counseling gives you that framework: a shared language for conflict, clarity about your values and expectations, and the tools to repair quickly when things go sideways, because they will, for every couple.

Caitie Fey, couples therapist, in session with a couple at Middle Way Wellness in Ferndale, MI

69%

Of relationship problems are "perpetual problems" rooted in personality differences between partners, according to Gottman Institute research. The goal is not to eliminate conflict, but to navigate it well.

90%+

Accuracy with which Gottman researchers could predict divorce by observing couples' interaction patterns, per longitudinal studies spanning over 20 years. The patterns that predict breakdown are identifiable and changeable.

30%

Average improvement in relationship outcomes for couples who completed premarital education compared with those who did not, according to a meta-analytic review of premarital prevention programs (Carroll & Doherty, 2003).

Before vs. After

Proactive counseling vs. crisis counseling

Both have their place. But there is a real difference in what is possible when you come in with love and openness instead of exhaustion and hurt.

Pre-Commitment Counseling

  • Build skills before pressure tests them
  • Address differences with curiosity, not defensiveness
  • Create shared rituals and language from the start
  • Learn each other's attachment needs proactively
  • Arrive with goodwill and optimism intact
  • Shorter, typically 4 to 8 sessions total

Crisis Couples Therapy

  • Address patterns that have calcified over years
  • Work through accumulated resentment and hurt
  • Rebuild trust that has been damaged
  • Untangle deeply ingrained communication defaults
  • Often harder and longer work
  • Can still be transformative, but costs more and takes longer
Our Methods

Evidence-based from the start

We draw from the most rigorously researched approaches in couples therapy and adapt them to your specific relationship.

Gottman Method Learn More

Developed from decades of research on thousands of couples, the Gottman Method helps you understand conflict patterns, deepen friendship, and build emotional intimacy. You will learn to turn toward each other even when things get hard.

Attachment Theory Learn More

We help you understand your attachment styles and how you seek closeness, respond to distance, and interpret your partner's actions, so you can create a more secure and trusting bond grounded in awareness rather than reactivity.

The Mental & Emotional Load Learn More

We talk openly about the invisible labor of relationships including emotional caretaking, household decision-making, and cognitive load, and help you build a partnership that feels genuinely equitable and mutually respectful.

Mindfulness & Somatic Therapy Learn More

Learn to stay present with each other, regulate your nervous systems during disagreements, and connect on a deeper, more embodied level. We work with the body as well as the mind, because the body keeps score in relationships too.
An Affirming Practice

Every relationship is welcome here

No values pushed on you. No pressure to fit a mold. We work with modern couples in all their forms.

LGBTQ+ Affirming Engaged & Non-Engaged Monogamous Couples Polyamorous & ENM Married & Non-Married All Cultural Backgrounds All Spiritual Backgrounds
Our Couples Therapists

Compassionate, direct, no-nonsense counseling

Courtney and Caitie both love working with couples, and each brings their own training and perspective to the room. They strike an important balance between compassion and directness: they will point out the relational patterns that are hard to look at, and you will feel held along the way. After your consultation, Courtney will match you with the therapist who is the best fit for your relationship.

Courtney Sommers, LLPC, couples therapist in Ferndale, MI

Courtney Sommers

LLPC · Gottman Level 2 Trained

Warm, collaborative, and honest. A safe space for couples to slow down, be heard, and get clear on what they want together.

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Relationships are powerful mirrors.

I love working with couples because relationships are where so much healing happens, and also where old wounds and unspoken needs show up the loudest. Together we slow things down so you can see the patterns that keep you stuck and build the communication, trust, and emotional connection you both want.

My style is warm and collaborative, and I will also be honest about what I see. Some sessions focus on practical tools you can use at home. Others make room for what is happening underneath the conflict. Either way, both partners will feel heard.

Couples I Love Working With
  • Millennial and Gen Z couples ready to deepen their relationship
  • Premarital counseling
  • Couples unsure whether they want to stay together who need a safe space and clarity to make this decision
  • Couples with a strong relationship who value counseling as a way to keep it strong
Questions We Might Explore
  • "Why do we keep having the same fight?"
  • "How do we talk about hard things without shutting down?"
  • "Do we want to stay together, and how will we know?"
  • "How do we protect our connection as life gets busier?"
Couples Training
  • Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Level 2
  • Fundamentals of Emotionally Focused Therapy
  • Therapy for Partner Aggression and Abuse
  • Motivational Interviewing for Couples
Education
  • MA Clinical Mental Health Counseling, Oakland University
  • BS Brain and Behavioral Sciences, Purdue University

Supervised by Jennifer Korenchuk, LPC, PhD

Caitie Fey, LPC, E-RYT, couples therapist in Ferndale, MI

Caitie Fey

LPC, E-RYT · Gottman Level 2 Trained

Mindful, grounded, and direct. Helping couples work through conflict, rebuild trust, and feel closer.

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Conflict can be a doorway to closeness.

I love helping couples turn toward each other in the moments that usually pull them apart. Drawing on the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and a trauma-informed lens, I help partners understand the cycle they get caught in and what each of them needs underneath it.

I bring a mindful, grounded presence, and I am direct. I will name the patterns that are hard to see from the inside while making sure you both feel safe enough to look at them. My background in somatic work and yoga also helps couples notice what happens in their bodies during conflict and learn to settle together.

Couples I Love Working With
  • Couples of all ages wanting to work through conflict to feel closer
  • Premarital counseling
  • Infidelity recovery
  • Communication when one or both partners have complex trauma
Questions We Might Explore
  • "How do we rebuild trust after an affair?"
  • "How can we disagree without it turning into the same old fight?"
  • "How do our past experiences show up in our relationship?"
  • "How can we feel like a team again?"
Couples Training
  • Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Level 2
  • Fundamentals of Emotionally Focused Therapy
  • Essentials of Trauma Treatment
Education
  • MA Clinical Mental Health Counseling & School Counseling, Oakland University
  • BS Anthropology & Environmental Science, University of Michigan
  • Experienced Registered Yoga Teacher (E-RYT)

All couples inquiries begin with a free consultation with Courtney.

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Private pay, with limited sliding scale spots available. Learn more about our team →

Getting Started

What to expect, step by step

A clear, structured process designed to feel supportive, not clinical.

1

Free Consultation with Courtney

A 15-minute video call with Courtney, with both partners attending, to discuss your goals. She then matches you with your best-fit clinician.

2

Relationship Assessments

Before your first session, you will each complete online assessments that help your therapist understand your relationship's strengths and growth areas.

3

Individual Sessions

Each partner meets separately with your therapist to share personal history and any concerns you would like to explore privately first.

4

Couples Sessions

Over 4 to 8 sessions, you will build skills, have structured conversations, and create the rituals and tools you will carry forward together.

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Investment

Session & Program Fees

Start HereFreeInitial consultation with Courtney
60 Minutes$180Couples session
90 Minutes$260Couples session

Full Premarital Program

4 to 8 Sessions$720 to $2,080Completed over 1 to 4 months at your pace

Couples therapy should be within reach. Our sliding scale starts with your combined household income and household size. Tiers are based on 2026 HUD income limits for the Detroit-Warren-Livonia metro area, which includes Oakland County, so they reflect the real cost of living here.

Find your estimated fee

Choose your household size and combined yearly household income before taxes.

For example: significant debt, medical or caregiving costs, supporting family members, job loss or reduced hours, or other necessary expenses. No documents needed.

Your estimated tier and session fees will appear here.

See all tiers
Tier60 min90 min
Tier AUp to 50% of area median income (up to $41,950 for a household of 2, $52,400 for 4)$120$175
Tier B50% to 80% of area median income (up to $67,100 for 2, $83,850 for 4)$140$200
Tier C80% to 100% of area median income (up to $83,900 for 2, $104,800 for 4)$160$230
Full feeAbove Tier C$180$260

More than income

Your therapist will also consider debt, necessary expenses, supporting others, job changes, and other hardships. You report this yourselves, and no documents are needed.

Limited spots

Each therapist holds a limited number of sliding scale spots. If none are open, we can add you to a waitlist or help you find other low-cost options.

Same care, kept private

Your fee never affects the quality of your care, and it stays confidential. Fees are reviewed every 12 months.

Ask about sliding scale availability during your free consultation with Courtney.

Pre-commitment counseling is private pay only. Insurance requires a diagnosis for one partner, but in relationship work we do not view one person as the problem. We focus on the partnership as a whole. A limited number of sliding scale spots are available for couples in financial distress, with 60-minute sessions from $120 and 90-minute sessions from $175 based on household income; ask about availability during your consultation. HSA and FSA funds may be accepted; check with your plan administrator to confirm your coverage before your first session.

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Get Started

Schedule your free consultation with Courtney

No pressure, no commitment. Please make sure you can both attend so Courtney can hear both of your goals.

Courtney Sommers, LLPC, couples therapist at Middle Way Wellness in Ferndale, MI

Courtney Sommers

LLPC · Gottman Level 2 Trained

All couples inquiries meet with Courtney first. In your consultation she will:

  • Listen to what brings you in and what you hope will change
  • Answer your questions about the premarital program, fees, and scheduling
  • Match you with the best-fit clinician on our team
Schedule a Consultation

Private pay · Limited sliding scale spots available · HSA / FSA may be accepted; check with your plan administrator · In-person in Ferndale, MI · Virtual throughout Michigan

Common Questions

Frequently asked questions

Every couples inquiry begins with a free consultation with Courtney Sommers, LLPC. Both partners attend so Courtney can hear each of your goals. She will then match you with the clinician on our team who is best suited to your relationship, schedule, and preferences. You do not need to figure out who to see on your own.
Not at all. Our program is for any couple preparing for a significant commitment, whether that is marriage, moving in together, having children, opening a relationship, or simply deciding to build a long-term future together. You do not need a ring or a date to benefit from this work.
Yes, and in fact this is exactly when it is most valuable. When you are not in crisis, you have the emotional bandwidth to learn, reflect, and practice skills without the pressure of an active conflict. Premarital counseling works best as a proactive investment, not a last resort. Couples who come in with goodwill and optimism do some of the deepest, most lasting work.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is an evidence-based approach to couples therapy developed by Dr. Sue Johnson and grounded in attachment theory. It helps partners recognize the negative cycle they get caught in during conflict, understand the emotions and needs underneath it, and create a more secure, responsive bond. Both of our couples therapists have training in the fundamentals of EFT and draw on it alongside the Gottman Method.
Generally 4 to 8 sessions, completed over 1 to 4 months at whatever pace works for you. After the program, you will have the option to continue with monthly check-ins or as-needed sessions so you always have a therapist in your corner for what comes next.
That is completely normal and actually useful information for the work. The individual sessions at the start of the program give each partner private space to share any hesitations, concerns, or hopes they might not say in front of their partner. Your therapist will help you find common ground and set goals that feel meaningful to both of you.
No. Insurance companies require a diagnosis for one partner in order to cover couples therapy, but in relationship work we do not view one person as the identified problem. We focus on the dynamic between you. A limited number of sliding scale spots are available for couples in financial distress, with 60-minute sessions from $120 and 90-minute sessions from $175 based on household income; ask about availability during your consultation. HSA and FSA funds may be accepted; check with your plan administrator to confirm your coverage.
Both. Sessions are available in-person at our welcoming Ferndale, MI office, or via secure HIPAA-compliant telehealth for any couple in Michigan, so geography is never a barrier.
Middle Way Wellness

359 Livernois #202
Ferndale, MI 48220
(248) 266-0503
caitie@middlewaywellnessmi.com

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